Just signed up. Sorry no responses as of yet. I’m a 16 month survivor of Stage IV jejunal (small intestine) cancer. Very rare. My wife and I were having problems before my diagnosis. We’d been married 22 years before my diagnosis and were having troubles the 4 years prior to diagnosis. My very first thought upon diagnosis was “who will take care of me” because she had all but checked out. She came through like a champ and the love was even starting to return. But as I started to get better, our relationship started to regress. So now I am at a point where I struggle between trying to recover and trying to save my marriage. So I may not be able to help answer your question per se, but I would love to have others chime in on relationship challenges and if they are in the same boat as us: struggling with our relationship AND our illness. And how do you decide what to do? I look forward to the conversations.