@actsoflight Be satisfied in your heart and mind that you have done what you can/are willing to do. There is an old saying about "not being able to change the stripes on a zebra" or something like that. Take peace in your heart and mind that you have extended yourself as far as you are comfortable doing. If you choose to stop at this point, feel secure you did as much as you did. Your friend may need a severe wake-up call to understand his role in all of this. We each have experienced people who believe they have no responsibility in their situation. Be strong for yourself. Feel free to reach out to me in a private message if you feel the need.
Ginger