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What to Expect as a Transplant Caregiver Jan 5, 2021 | By Kristin Eggebraaten (@keggebraaten)Comment receiving replies
I feel anger and resentment. I've gone to doctor's appointments with him and at least 2 of those times I've heard him successfully deceive the medical staff about issues that were very important for them to know.
His primary care cardiologist has his hands full with him on many levels. He's extremely impatient and 'plays' at being grateful. He's got lots of internal rage that is sometimes released, passively or aggressively, on those who don't deserved it. I've attempted to tell him to seek counseling as did one of his doctors. I went with him the one and only time he went. He never went back and wouldn't discuss the issue any further.
He's yet to thank me or show gratitude for any of my efforts. I even sent him 2 emails a asking him if he's participated in any way with Mayo Clinic's Connect. I haven't heard a word back. Knowing him as well as I do I believe he expects me to say I'll be his primary caregiver and go flying down there to handle everything for him.
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@actsoflight Be satisfied in your heart and mind that you have done what you can/are willing to do. There is an old saying about "not being able to change the stripes on a zebra" or something like that. Take peace in your heart and mind that you have extended yourself as far as you are comfortable doing. If you choose to stop at this point, feel secure you did as much as you did. Your friend may need a severe wake-up call to understand his role in all of this. We each have experienced people who believe they have no responsibility in their situation. Be strong for yourself. Feel free to reach out to me in a private message if you feel the need.
Ginger