Thank you to everyone for you kind words of support. I never was much of a care giver because my belligerent husband did not allow anyone to care for him. So the only satisfaction I could feel was in sharing helpful hints with others in the same boat who don't know what to do to make the day tolerable, let alone better. Then I don't feel like I failed in the end. I tried. Now I want to help others when I can. Dorisena