I promised my children many years ago that I would never put the pressure on them that family puts on everyone. So, we celebrate the holidays on or after the Orthodox January 6th & 7th. The grand children get a second round of presents and fun, and my wife and I congregate with our kids and their spouses in one of our kids' kitchen, fix fun meals, laugh and decompress. No one stresses, everyone is relaxed, and we all just have fun with each other.