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Cancer and Depression: When Should You Be Concerned? Jul 25, 2018 | By Megan Roessler M. Ed. (@meganroessler)Comment receiving replies
Nancy Bush) I lost my husband of 67 years, seven months on May 4, 2018. The service was beautiful. Since then I have been so teary, not sleeping very good, I try to keep busy, one son,(oldest) has been very mouthy in many conversations. All together I have four boys, one daughter. I have my own medical problems. :(I am 85) I have two kinds of lung cancer. My #2 son lost his first wife to cancer and his second wife has lung cancer and brain caner. Another son has his bone marrow putting out too many red cells, which he is not cancer med's. As a mom, I can't help any one of my "kids". I have been so emotional since my hubby passed. I have a doc' appointment next week to see if he can help me to get somewhat over this (I guess) depression. Just thought to post this to see what idea's anyone here has. Thanks for listening. Nancy. (PS. I do talk to Colleen and Hopeful in the lung cancer group, haven't done that in about three weeks. Just so much to handle.
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You have had a lot to deal with over the last few months! I'm sure life is very different without your husband. 67 years together is amazing and I can't imagine how difficult it would be without him in your life. You are understandably dealing with grief and loss, but also a big lifestyle change too. Add cancer. Add the stress of your son's mouth. No wonder you are teary and not sleeping well. I think you are smart to go talk to a medical professional. It can be hard to share our struggles, but the first step is to say it out loud (or type it as you have done here!) Cindy is very right in that the "village concept" should be expanded. We aren't able to get through life alone - we need other people to help us along the way. I'm hoping you get some answers and also some relief. Take care and thank you for sharing here on Connect, Megan
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Hugs to you. You are in a very difficult situation and it's hard to imagine not being depressed. You're experiencing great loss and challenges. Anyone would be overwhelmed. I have challenges now with my husband's cancer illness but thankfully my daughter is well and thriving.....if she were also experiencing great difficulties and I couldn't help, I would hit my tipping point. Please reach out to your doctors and get a counselor who can help by listening and getting you in touch with any services that might help. Reach out to friends and others in your cancer community (including here) whenever you need support and 'share' your grief and needs. That saying that it takes a village to raise children should be expanded to include, 'it takes a village' to deal with cancer.