Yes. I think family members need to become patient advocates. Being my husband's advocate helped him and helped me. Instead of standing around helplessly and wringing my hands, I felt involved in his care. Being an advocate is a cooperative role and I read up on it beforehand. For example, the nurses wanted to keep my husband's room quiet and dark. Weeks later, however, I decided it would help my husband to see the sunshine, and shared this thought with the nurse. She raised the shades. Having a loved one in the ICU is stressful for family members. An experienced family caregiver, I knew this, and asked for help. Family members were extremely helpful and became my support group. A couple from church invited me and another caregiver to dinner and I learned a lot from her. I've been a health/wellness writer for 38 years and this is my 21st year as a family caregiver. I wrote a series of four books for family caregivers and Amazon just released my 36th book, which is about raising grandchildren. Seeing thoughts in print can be a life-changing experience, and I encourage family members to write about their experiences in a journal. People ask me if I keep a journal, but my books serve as journals.