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Adult children extremely critical

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Mar 17, 2021 | Replies (7)
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@junkartist It's wonderful that your son is trying to work it out. I can only come from the perspective of an adult child. My daughter is still young. Regardless of what your children feel, communication is key. If you communicate an open stance to their thoughts and feelings about the way you brought them up, that's all that you can do right now. Eventually your children will need to understand that parents have shortcomings too. Parents are people. Parents make mistakes.

I'm wondering if you have considered family therapy as a means to start a productive conversation with your adult children? It may only take a few sessions to get the ball rolling in a positive direction.

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junkartist | @junkartist | Mar 17, 2021

Thank you Erika, family therapy has been suggested, but for now, I think we'll stick with gentler approach. One of my daughter's criticisms is that I am manipulative and controlling. I think that one possibility is that she is blaming me for all her worries. My middle son has said flatly that "he doesn't want to talk about it at this time." I think that working with thing out with Sam may leading to breaking through to the other two. They do talk to my husband and usually ask for me. I try to respond calmly and neutrally. One time, I was talking to my middle son and I pushed him too hard to tell me what was wrong. He was very angry about that. So you see, they all have different personalities and I tend to light the fuse. My husband is taking the lead right now.

Thank you for listening, reminding me of the importance of communication and suggesting options.

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