I have have found the following help: 1. I know pelvic floor exercises are primarily for stress incontinence, but they do help for urge incontinence. 2. Try to stretch your bladder capacity by hanging on as long as possible. 3. Make sure you tighten your pelvic floor for everything that triggers the urge, e.g. when you hear running water. 4. Also, if you get the urge, don't focus on it. Focus on something else. I have found these things really help, in fact it is very rare that I have any incontinence following these rules. May you find relief.