@victoriarosa Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect, a place to give and get support.

It sounds like you have a lot going on and you are in between a rock and a hard place. Do you think some of the cognitive and balance issues could also be due to stress? Dealing with cognitive and balance issues, going off a medication you have been on for 30 years, selling your house, and moving sounds like a lot to handle at once.

Below I have linked previous discussion where members like @yellowmoon @mwsa1945 @mwsa1945 @helenfrances @hyundaipro @sarasally2 have discussed a similar topic. You may wish to scroll through the past comments.
- Any positive stories about Benzo tapering? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/benzo-tapering/
- Benzodiazepines and tapering side effects https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/benzodiazepines-and-taperingside-effects/

Below I have also linked groups where you may find connections with members that may be going through something similar. You may wish to scroll through these discussions as well.
- Depression & Anxiety https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/depression-anxiety/
- Chronic Pain ://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/pain/

What do you mean when you say that you aren't getting much out of your virtual appointments? Have you discussed your symptoms with the provider? Have you advocated for yourself? Do you feel heard?

I'm also wondering if you have considered asking your children and loved ones for help? It sounds like you need some help. I know it's hard to ask for help. Would you consider asking your loved ones for help regarding your medical care?