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Ashamed: I think about (and plan for) dying. Do you?

Lung Cancer | Last Active: Apr 7, 2023 | Replies (196)

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@ta52- @olgamarie- @marshall8318 - Good morning. I think that there might be some confusion here. Making end-of-life decisions does not mean that you are choosing death. It means that you are living well, taking care of business. Some of this is similar to buying car insurance. It guarantees certain things. Now if you were a 20-year old I would really wonder why you would do this. I'm guessing that you aren't!

By making a will, even buying cemetery plots makes good sense. This way you make the decisions and there will be fewer confusing decisions for your heirs to make.

When my niece was killed I bought up all the plots around her that I could so that whoever wanted to be near her could. I am a 23+ lung cancer survivor from 2 different lung cancers, 2 open chest surgeries, 2 SBRT's, PTSD, COPD, and various other annoyances. Making end-life decisions, as difficult and morbid as they were, gave me peace of mind. It was a good day of living when I made my decisions.

There is no shame in thinking about dying. Survival is a natural instinct and for a healthy life, I think that those thoughts mature us. Sometimes it's difficult to know what our place is in the world. For me, I had to look at my whole life and that meant both ends.

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Thank you for those words. I recently found out my lung cancer has spread to my liver. All I hear and see in peoples faces is "oh with a sad face" This concerned me as I am stage 4 lung cancer and was doing reallyt well 3 months ago. I immediatly went into depression. But I want to be upbeat and happy, Working on paperwork is a struggle but am getting it done. I have a Social Worker helping me. So any words of encouragement will be welcome. 23 years is what I saw in your comment. I feel better now!