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Ashamed: I think about (and plan for) dying. Do you?
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I don't spend time planning my funeral; I spend time planning how my wife and I are going to do a walking marathon together this Fall. This is a game of life and death and I choose life. I will do everything in my power and utilize every resource available to me to make sure cancer loses. There are millions of cancer survivors out there and I have every intention of being one myself.
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@ta52- @olgamarie- @marshall8318 - Good morning. I think that there might be some confusion here. Making end-of-life decisions does not mean that you are choosing death. It means that you are living well, taking care of business. Some of this is similar to buying car insurance. It guarantees certain things. Now if you were a 20-year old I would really wonder why you would do this. I'm guessing that you aren't!
By making a will, even buying cemetery plots makes good sense. This way you make the decisions and there will be fewer confusing decisions for your heirs to make.
When my niece was killed I bought up all the plots around her that I could so that whoever wanted to be near her could. I am a 23+ lung cancer survivor from 2 different lung cancers, 2 open chest surgeries, 2 SBRT's, PTSD, COPD, and various other annoyances. Making end-life decisions, as difficult and morbid as they were, gave me peace of mind. It was a good day of living when I made my decisions.
There is no shame in thinking about dying. Survival is a natural instinct and for a healthy life, I think that those thoughts mature us. Sometimes it's difficult to know what our place is in the world. For me, I had to look at my whole life and that meant both ends.
You and I think alike. I'm too young and have way too many things left to do in life so don't plan on going anywhere no matter how dreadful my diagnosis. Now we all have to outrun COVID while fighting cancer at the same time so it's a bit more difficult but I'm not letting it stop me. I mask up, double mask now with new variants spreading, wash my hands, and social distance. I stay out of bars and restaurants, etc but still enjoy life as much as possible, every chance I get.
You keep walking so your ready for that marathon with your wife this Fall. I'm not about to enter any marathons but certainly plan on visiting places I've never been and showing my husband places I have been to when I was a kid that he's never seen. Life is good 😎☮
Me too. I don't have time to mull around thinking about dying. Life goes on! Merry Christmas!
Im starting my chimo next week l got carcinoma in my write lung l got a lobectomie l got 16 treatment to do and l gone to fight to the end and try to win that cancer it’s true lots of people out there there ok
Thank you you make me feel better:)
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Like ta52@ta52 I choose life. The statics tell me people live and I plan on being one of them. Each day I walk 30 minutes, do deep breathing exercises and every evening think of all the things I’m thankful for that day. My husband finds cancer survivor stories to share with me whenever I feel discouraged. There continues to be breakthroughs in cancer research and treatments. Find ways to stay strong and positive!