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First off, thanks for the compliment on my writing, I pride myself on writing and it's nice for people to notice. Secondly, whether I tell them verbally or through a letter is something I need to think about. I think a letter would be better as I often get tongue-tied and anxious. It is very important to me that I share this with my family, but the reason I have it as such a high priority is because I don't think I can get help without them knowing. But is there? Because I know for a fact they'd respond the best if I came to them with words from someone that they'd listen to. Like is it possible to talk to and get diagnosed online or through calls? Does anyone have any suggestions for how a broke, dependent 18 year old could go about this without talking with my parents? I'm so sorry if these sound like dumb questions, I'm extremely unknowledgeable about the subject of mental health altogether and am just asking whatever comes to my mind and hoping they're legit questions and not dumb ones lol. If not, and my parents are the only way, I'll probably go about adapting my post and sending it to them.

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I think talking to a therapist would be great for you because they cannot talk with anyone about what you talk to them about

@keltothemoon I'm glad you feel supported and I think it is commendable for you to recognize you need help. There is such stigma around mental health but a mental health issue is the same as having any other medical issue. There is a lack of understanding regarding mental health. I think it's important for you to know that many successful people receive mental health treatment and most of the symptoms that you speak of are likely extremely treatable through a medication and therapy combination. (Side note- Did you know our second president John Adams likely had bipolar disorder?) Early intervention is key in the treatment of mental health. What this means is that the earlier you receive treatment the more likely the treatment will successfully manage your symptoms.

How does an 18-year-old get mental health treatment when he is dependent? Well, this can be tricky. I hope that I am not too directive and forgive me if I am. I get the feeling you are wanting practical answers to your questions.

I'm assuming you are under your parents' insurance? I think the first step may be to go to your primary care and tell them your symptoms, your concerns regarding your family member's response, and that you feel you need help. Do you have a primary care provider established as an adult yet? You could schedule this appointment as your yearly physical or something. I know it's hard but try to be honest with them at the appointment. They see this kind of thing multiple times per day.

The primary care provider will most likely give your a referral for a therapist and/or discuss medication. They could also refer you to a psychiatrist. Do you think maybe your parents would feel differently if a professional felt this concern should be addressed?

You should know that despite your being on your parents' insurance, they do not have access to your mental health treatment notes. They will have access to the bills and EOB. That is why this is tricky.

There are places that offer free and cheap mental health services, not related to your medical insurance. Often your local county Health and Human Services Department will offer these kinds of resources and/or direct you to other resources. You can also google mental health resource hotline. (Do they call it a hotline anymore?) You will likely find multiple resources in your area.

I know this is difficult but you seem extremely intelligent, proactive, and savvy regarding the utilization of resources. As I said, forgive me if I was too directive.

Take care,
Erika