...for me, I miss hugs and cuddles, we used to be interested in same tv shows so sat together, now each have own tv...but it's been a 40 year marriage and whereas sexual intimacy played a big part, over the initial years, an almost platonic? friendship evolved and I get that...but as has been said I think, it's odd that the sexual intimacy faded into a memory after cancer treatment... wonder if this happens with other illnesses ... as might another type of life changing occurrence in a partnership/marriage? Well I do now have a teddy bear!!!!

Food for thought.

I think the suggestion to define what intimacy one would like is a good one. Culturally we've a lot of conflicting messages around sex and intimacy, and that can make it difficult, at best, to find help, or even talk about it with your partner. For a variety of reasons, my partner and I haven't had intercourse in several years, but we still kiss one another many times during the day, and we sleep naked together, and I've checked in often to see if these things are satisfying enough. They are for us, along with masturbation (which is still so taboo!). I hope @katehedderich knows that each partnership is unique, and whatever the two of you decide together what works for you is a-okay. I wish the best for both of you!