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When things just don't get better
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 11, 2022 | Replies (147)Comment receiving replies
@lacy2 @sundance6
I am with you guys. No one is asking that much. Maybe just to be listened to and commiserated with. I don't think that is too much to ask, and certainly not of family members, unless you've done something like pilfered their bank account or something 😉 I feel like I am so blessed to be mostly healthy at 68 and I give my wife all the slack she needs. I give her my ear, as well as my heart and concern for what she goes through. I agree that some folks need to experience pain and suffering and debilitating illness to then be able to form that compassion for others. For some reason I do not. I love my wife deeply and feel so much sorrow for how much she suffers, and I give to her as much as I have to give. I have to say, I like you guys, Lacy and Sundance. And I like many other people here on Connect. I think you are special people. I hope you are having a GOOD Sunday! (Though I know most of your days are a challenge.) Best, Hank
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So nice to hear of you and your wife's relationship and I am sorry she is ill. (One of my problems too is tinnitus and it is relentless). My husband is 9 years younger than me and was in reasonable health (we each have survived cancer) but few years ago I took a nose-dive and he had been looking after me; then 8 weeks ago he had triple bypass surgery and I had to somehow take over while he was gone 3 weeks... and now we are propping each other up. He keeps his feelings to himself and I don't... but we are still there for each other, married 40 years (my second marriage). Being a caregiver can be a strain on a relationship, and being in the house a lot due to his recovery and Covid, its the "little things" that seem to bother us, especially being so cold outside and neither of us driving right now. This must be so hard on many people especially with health issues. However, "sympathy" costs nothing and yet some people just "cannot" feel it or express it for others.
Best wishes to you too Hank, and your wife...J.S. (Ontairo)