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Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 11, 2022 | Replies (147)Comment receiving replies
Hi Hank I just read you response regarding living co-dependently and wondering is this normal? My husband and I Love each other he is 58 and I am 56 if you remember me I have Myotonia Congenita and he has some health issues but his is curable. Both our parents didn’t have a great marriage but for some reason they decided to live miserably. I don’t want that to happen so is this normal were after 30 plus years you just show affection but don’t engage physically. My husband had surgery a few years back an aorta bypass and he doesn’t work in that area of his body. I am very happy to be around him he makes me laugh and is very supportive were it has to do with my condition. I just worry because he is a guy and that this might be enough for him. He doesn’t say anything but my worry is we would grow apart. You situation give me hope, so I pray we don’t end up like our parents. Kim
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Hi Kim, yes I know you well and because of you I became very studied up about MC after you appeared here back in the summer. BTW, did you ever manage to get in touch with the young lady in the YouTube video, the one who also had MC? Just wondering.
My personal conviction about loving relationships is that they are capable of withstanding almost anything. Having love with limited or no sexual relationship is better than being involved in a terrific sexual relationship with very little love. Anyway, sex or no sex, you can still show your love to each other physically. Don't you guys hug and cuddle with each other? Kim, why don't you broach your concerns with your guy? The best thing for a healthy marriage beside showing physical love is open communication. If you guys aren't used to that, be brave and try it. I can't tell you how many misunderstanding my wife and I have avoided by lots of talking. My wife brought that to our marriage; NOBODY talked much in my family, and it was a breath of fresh air to learn it was possible! You'd be amazed at how much you can learn about yourself by meaningful discussion with your spouse, if they are open to it.
Best always to you Kim, Hank