@rea721 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. You have a large kidney stone in your ureter but you were told that no surgeon will do surgery because your PTH levels are not elevated. You want to connect with other people that have gone through someone similar. Members like @dave9136 @hopeful33250 have discussed this topic before.

Below I have linked a previous discussion related to this topic. You may wish to scroll through the previous comments. There looks to also be links provided by a member that may be helpful.
- Worrying About My Hyperparathyroidism https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/worrying-about-my-hyperparathyroidism/

You mentioned that you were concerned with, "letting it go." May I ask if you have considered a second opinion?