Women have twice if not more the pain receptors than men biologically. It’s not fair or right to ANYONE to compare themselves to how another handles a pain load. That will drive them into depression faster than a speeding bullet. DO NOT DO THAT TO YOURSELF AND YOUR LOVED ONES.
As for me? I spend most of my day in my recliner, the equivalent to my bed. I spend 40% of my day (on a good day) doing things around the house that will help my husband and me be productive. I organize my craft room, paint, wipe down the kitchen and clean the kitchen IF it’s not overwhelming. I even groom my service dog! Not all of these and definitely not at once.
I spend time with my hubby and play with our dog who is painfully neglected by me on my down days.
This is my life and I have compensated not BECAUSE of the pain but in spite of it.
Pain does not control me. I live my life anyway and I’m happy. I breathe through it and have learned that it is another feature of me that people will either accept or not.
My quality of life is the defining factor and management of that factor affects it, yes.
Just like my seizures, migraines, and other diseases which I have affect it.
But they don’t DEFINE OR CONTROL who I am. I am Renee, child of God, wife of James, mother of Sean, and warrior.
That is who I have always been and will continue to be.
Please, people, don’t let an indicator, something your body is using to try to help you, overwhelm you into taking your purpose for life away.