@lovethedesert
You certainly have had a crash course in breast cancer... and your head must be spinning. If I were you, I would call the oncologist's office, let his nurse or nurse practitioner know that you need a copy of his notes from that meeting... that you were'nt able to take it all in, and you'd like an opportunity to consider his recommendations. In addition, if you don't feel as though you can have a good relationship (as in communications, answered questions, accessability) with this oncologist, you might consider asking your surgeon, PCP, and breast cancer survivor peers for their best recommendations on oncologists in the area. Good luck, and do keep us posted.