@healthytoday It's so hard to watch someone we love make mistakes that are bad for their health and happiness. 50 pounds is a lot. I lead a healthy lifestyle like you and I think it would break my heart to see my daughter not treating her body kindly. My daughter is young but I am trying to imagine what I would do if I were in your shoes. I am not one for advice but I think that I would consider the source of the weight gain. Why is she doing this to herself?

You already answered that question. She was in an abusive relationship and now she is divorced. She's in a tough spot. She may need help to move on and up.

Do you think she would be open to seeing a therapist? A therapist would give her space to deal with the root cause of the weight gain and likely she would start to feel better and take care of her body. She may also wish to see her primary care provider to see if she would be a candidate for an antidepressant. Likely she would be.

Below I have linked the Mental Health, Depression & Anxiety, and COVID-19 groups. You may wish to scroll through the posts and find connections. I also encourage you to create a post.
- Mental Health https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/mental-health/
- Depression & Anxiety https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/depression-anxiety/
- COVID-19 https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/covid-19/

This is a relevant topic. Due to COVID-19 you are certainly not the only people in your situation.

I haven't done this myself but I know that letters can be more powerful than spoken words. Have you considered writing your daughter a letter, letting her know what a wonderful person she is, that you want what is best for her, and will always be there? You could leave the religion and weight bit out of it because they appear to be trigger topics right now.

Like I said, I'm not one for advice. Forgive me if this isn't helpful.