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Aging Well | Last Active: Oct 19, 2020 | Replies (23)

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@sueinmn

Hi Kathy - Good for you for getting things organized. I will add a caution - check the safe deposit access laws in you state. My uncle had done the same, giving my Mom a key, but when she went to access the box, the bank had frozen it based on his death notice (they were joint holders) and she had to get a probate judge's order to get access even though he didn't have enough assets to require probate. We have elected to keep items in our safe at home for this reason, and our daughters know where they are and how to access. When my Mom was in assisted living, all of her important papers were in my sister's and brother's possession. The alternative would be to copy all the items in the box, seal them in an envelope and give it to your sister.
Sue

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@sueinmn, Good point. Another idea if safe deposit box is chosen as one location for safe access is to create joint ownership of the deposit box. I did this with my daughter and it did require her in-person signature at the time I acquired the box.

The chances of having what happened to my friends by storing their estate papers in a home safe are probably one in a million but because people can become unpredictable during end-of-life and death situations, one daughter's access to the home safe prevented her partner's access to my friend's will and other legal documents which left him without means to carry out my friend's final wishes regarding her burial, bequeaths, and even his own ability to continue in the home they'd shared for over 20 years.