Judyca7: Consider trying one of the less complicated assisted listening devices; the Pocket Talker. I don't recall from the beginning of this conversation if you use hearing aids. If you do, and if they have activated telecoils, that Pocket Talker could be very helpful to you. If no hearing aids with telecoils, it can be used with ear buds. Many of the troubles couples have when one of them has hearing loss, is a lack of understanding of what one can do to help oneself, and what one can do to help the other person. We do not have 'selective hearing'. Sometimes it appears that way. We don't respond because we are doing something else, or we aren't spontaneous in responding. It's extremely important to get a hard of hearing person's attention before speaking...kind of awkward to the person who wants their attention, but it becomes a way of life. In other words, get my attention before you start talking to me. AND, please mute the TV if it's on! Sadly, HLAA chapters are not meeting currently, but when they are, they provide an excellent opportunity for couples to come together and talk about all these things. Meanwhile, check out the national HLAA website. You may find some interesting info there, including several podcasts, some recorded Zoom meetings and more. They are all captioned.