@marjou Yes, hmmmmm. Not knowing the exact context I'm not sure what the therapist meant precisely. I do feel that the hurts that were within me, and had been there from 7 years old until late thirties (when I dealt with them) could have been accessed anytime if the proper methods had been used. That was me. I had a particular level and type of hurt. I was not DEEPLY abused. I grew up in a basically loving family, or at least one in which no one except my 3 year older brother was intentionally trying to hurt me. The hurt he laid on me was part of what I worked on. (As a side note, he became a great guy as an adult and has profusely apologised to me for what he did as a kid). But I am sure lot's of people had much worse harm done to them that I did and they might not be able to address their hurt without professional therapy. Best, Hank