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I'm in a toxic marriage. I 've been wanting to get out for the last 6 years but can't live in a big city by myself. My siblings in my home town have abandon me. I'm on seraquel, Lamictal, and Viibryd. Trying to taper off the Kolonopin. My depression and OCD are genetic and situational. Just want to get out of this house and date again. That always lifts my spirits. Has anyone else experienced a separation a good thing for your depression? Maria.
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@mariajean03 I was married for 18 yrs and would say the last ten years were the worst for I didn't know him anymore with his drinking nor did I know myself. I even was hospitalized, but when I could think clearly again I made a list of what I needed to do to proceed with the divorce and keep me safe. I also had the help of a good therapist to help keep me focused and grounded. Once I was sure in my head about the divorce I was able to move forward.
Stay strong!
@mariajean03 Hi Maria, I'm sorry you are struggling. You have not gotten a divorce yet? Get brave and do it. Then you can start dating. I'm on Klonopin and usually just take it at night to help me sleep. I'm also on Lamictal and Lexapro. I was really fine until 2 months ago I had a 9 hour fusion back surgery from T-10 to my pelvis. Now I have been depressed and some anxiety. It's worse in the morning when I first get up and then I get better. Mine is also genetic and situational. My mom took her life at age 69. I'm going to be turning 69 on Friday. She was Manic Depressive or they call it Bipolar 1 now. My son has Bipolar 1 and is a professor, but cannot teach because of the mental illness.
Where do you live?. We live in a suburb of Des Moines, Iowa. Do you have some friends that could help you? I know what it's like having siblings having no contact. My son, his wife, and my precious granddaughter. We have no contact with them. Part of it is my son's wife and part of it is the bipolar 1. His dad was verbally abusive to both of out children. My daughter went to a church that had groups that helped her forgive him. I am so sorry they have abandon you. What is the reason? Do you know?
I'm pretty lucky, there other grandmother, who lives in Chicago, sends me pictures of Marlowe and if they are visiting there she lets Marlowe skype with us, but they are not going there this summer, so I won't be able to skype with Marlowe. My son's wife is also a professor and they live in NYC and she does research and teaches.
I'm sorry I can't help you more, but I do understand how much you must hurt. Be strong.
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@mariajean03 Yes, I left a marriage that was toxic, and it helped my depression a great deal. It was not easy; I won't lie and say it was. But my peace of mind was uppermost to save. I did it on my own, with no help from anyone. My ex made the claim there was "no way" I would be successful, which seemed to give me even more incentive to prove him wrong.
Ginger