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@sueinmn

@zep I agree with @fiesty76 that you do not know why the family made the choices they did.

I will tell you that depression and anxiety brought on by isolation due to Covid-19 have been wreaking havoc on several members of my own family, to the point that intervention has been required. Deciding what's worth risking in those circumstances is complicated and carries some danger of infection, but there are other factors like long term mental wellbeing to consider as well.

And right now if you don't have an ongoing relationship with a mental health provider in our area you are not going to get an appointment unless you are truly suicidal, so you do the best you can.

It sounds to me like the family weighed their choices and still got infected, but are dealing with that properly.

At some point in this pandemic each of us will be making our own decisions on the amount of risk we can or must accept, whether to work, go to school, seek medical care, or preserve our mental health or that of our children. We cannot all stay home and out of harm's way awaiting a vaccine or a cure. We can only make the best choices out of a menu of bad ones.
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@sueinmn @zep @fiesty76 @merpreb The old saying "It's water under the bridge" seems to apply here. We were not there to know exact precautions taken. In spite of, or because of, doesn't apply now. It happened. This family has the opportunity, and more than likely has taken this chance, to tell as many others as they can, what happened to them. It's a precautionary tale in these times. It underscores the insidious nature of this infection. There are many people walking around each day, asymptomatic, who may be passing the infection on. We, as an individual or a family unit, make the decisions on our everyday life.

Re the concept of testing and notification process, we have parts of our society who not only have no access to internet or have a language barrier to cross, also may have the inability to read/comprehend the written word, regardless of the language presented in. We are in a dilemma of proportions noone saw coming.

My two cents worth....
Ginger

@sueinmn, Sue, I cannot fully express the depth of my gratitude for your posts, particularly this latest one, regarding my young grandson's diagnosis.

Not only did you "read between the lines of my original post with empathy and understanding", you and other mentors and members have written to express concern and also encouragement during this very frightening time for me and my small family. For a concerned out-of-state grandmother, your support and kind responses truly help.

The word: "connect" is defined by Webster as "to bind, to fasten, to join". To associate with others experiencing serious health issues who can share and support with possibly different approaches but with mutual respect in a "safe" place is the single most important tenet of the Mayo Support forums. Thank you.

My dad, who was a life role model for me, told me many times over my growing up years that: "if you can't say something nice, say nothing". I've tried to live by that and would suggest that some would be better served if they adopted that as a mantra, too.

Sue, I questioned the choices made in the beginning of this conversation as well. Feisty 76 is a hardcore science-minded person much like myself. We must all be vigilant and NEVER let our guard down! NEVER! Let the therapists sort it out later. We all make mistakes, yes even I have taken calculated risks. It is the mistakes that we make when we let down our defenses that will take down the best of us. Being hyper vigilant wears on us all. We are in a battle for survival and will not be able to truly relax until this is over. This is a wake up call for all of us. We knew that this time would come and many allowed our government to become woefully unprepared to handle a crisis like SARS CoV2.
This is a devastating Worldwide disaster that will likely have a residual impact for decades. The science is what matters now. “Damn the torpedoes...man the lifeboats!”
You are such a good diplomat Sue. Intelligent, sensitive people like you belong in a government leadership role. You have skills! Kudos to Fiesty76 as well. You are quite articulate and use science rather than emotions to convey your opinions. I appreciate your candor albeit somewhat harsh but of pure intentions. I hope I never cross swords with you Fiesty76. Your name is quite understated.