@jeremy17
Just because you are referred to an oncologist does not mean you have cancer. It mean it is a possibility and the oncologist can help figure it out. You may need a biopsy. My husband had a spot on his lung that was of concern. He was referred to an oncologist because of the radiology report. It turns out he had organizing pneumonia also known as boop. Still not a great diagnosis, but the biopsy ruled out cancer. My husband had already had pancreatic cancer which was discovered by accident. So scary times.

Make a list of questions and if allowed have someone go with you to help you understand your conversation with the oncologist. .. bring something to write notes on. Some doctors will let you record the session, but most not. If no one allowed to go with you ask if maybe you can have someone join the session with a video call.. Skpe or Facetime, etc. . and do that ahead of time if you can. With covid19 virus around the rules vary from place to place.

I wish I had an answer for the stress. A lot of deep breaths and doing things that normally calm you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
ZeeGee