To me, the gifts come, first because God gave them to me/us -usually without my awareness. I sorta of discover they are present when I reflect at how I did something that got me through the "crisis" - something "beyond me" that unfolds. I may have read that something might work ( like how to handle stress" info etc.) But in those "Truck Coming FAST-Just Hit Me" moments, yes reading an practicing what I learned helps alot - but putting it together right in a crisis, or in looking at lifelong patterns all lie in core parental exampe and teaching, and that "walk with God" (as you understand God) sets the tone. The gumption i have in large measure is that I know from God that I am no junk and with God, everything is possible, however hard it is. And so, even with TBI, watch out world- I make differences happen -for/in myself, and for/with other people.