@amberpep I really applaud you on your wish/plan to help your friend with her post-op care from a difficult surgery. To help your friend prepare for this surgery, I would suggest that you both do some brainstorming and planning now. Since she is going to JohnsHopkins hospital, you could find out from the hospital if they have a wound clinic. The nurses there are usually certified in caring for ostomies and should be able to help your friend. You might also talk with the home care nurses at the hospital to see what kind of follow up care they can provide. Insurance covers most care so she will want to take advantage of everything!
If her daughter can be there the first week or so, it would be best. Caring for a new stoma can be difficult. The best things you can do for her is cooking, driving, and all the small but important thing to help her feel better.
Do you think you think you can help your friend make these calls?