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Major Changes as Spouses Age

Aging Well | Last Active: Oct 23, 2020 | Replies (51)

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@maryflorida

@gingerw.... Ginger, I do appreciate your input. This has been our scenario of late. Hope I am not too graphic. After Jeopardy is over, we go to bed, and he finds a comedy on his ipad. He holds the ipad and I snuggle up next to him, just gently hugging him, touching his face and upper chest, and kissing his shoulder. After two programs, he falls asleep. He never touches me, but enjoys me touching him. I think if he would want to caress me, even in a non-sexual way, I would be content. When I tell him just what I am telling you, he reluctantly says okay. Then I don't want him to with an attitude like this. If we try to discuss it, he keeps telling me he is sick (yes, he is sick) and just doesn't feel like this. I am not gross or overweight and also very clean.

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@maryflorida Have you had an opportunity to speak with your husband's doctor or transplant team? There may be depression intruding into the marital relationship, perhaps caused by medication side effects, or other life issues. Also, having a thorough physical examination for health in general, may be beneficial. Lovingly explaining to him that you miss the physical intimacy of your marriage, that there may be alternative activities the two of you can enjoy and participate in, may be of help. Would you consider looking into these ideas?
Ginger