We are definitely in the same situation. Even our husbands both being in sales. Vertigo for me too, and now hormones...You and I take care of ourselves, and them too. How amazing that you find the energy and time to help out! It doesn't sound like your husband has improved; is that right? I don't really need the entire lovemaking, but gentle kisses on the cheek, lightly touching my shoulder, saying "I love you" now and then would sure help. You are right; this is not what we had thought it would be. But, yes, it could be much worse! Btw, I am thankful for my kids.. I have 11 and they all help out us and each other where it is needed. One son bought us a lovely house even. They all live far away but I fly free since another son works for Southwest. I guess feeling unloved by a husband is not the end of the world. He does love me in his own way.