Hello
Just read your post. You have a lot of nerve asking Ginger to make arrangements to travel to NM to drop off beads. She’s in Oregon, and not in good health. I’m sure she has friends in her neighborhood who will put the beads to good use.
I sincerely hope you were kidding???
Use better common sense.

@davej, What a touching post and good reminder that it is so important to do that which we can while we can and how sad that your ex relative continued to resent you "for not forcing a trip long ago". Speaking for myself here, but can't recall a single time when I ever was able to "force" another adult to do something or change something only they could do.

How many regrets we might all have in thinking: "if only, I'd....told them when I could, done whatever, etc" Only takes a moment to tell another how much they mean to us or perform some small kindness that might brighten another's day while we can but I am so sorry this woman attempted to place guilt on you during her last days. Who knows the trouble avoided by not taking that trip.

@davej In reading @fiesty76's reply to you, it brought a memory up. I was setting up a roadtrip to Yosemite National Park, with my now-ex and his aging mother. On a whim I called my dad [he was 90 at that point] and asked if he wanted to go. It was a resounding "yes!" One sister tried to talk him out of it, and remonstrated me for bringing it up. Rented a Dodge Caravan [everyone had a door] and packed in a wheelchair "just in case". Lots of miles, frustration, pampering. But best of all, unforgettable memories and stories my dad shared that I had never heard. I never regretted any part of that adventure!
Ginger