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Downsizing, To Move or Not to Move? That is the Question
Aging Well | Last Active: Mar 23 9:13pm | Replies (473)Comment receiving replies
@gingerw, I was really moved thinking how difficult it must have been to move away from everyone you knew a couple of years ago. Being an introvert in a new community must have presented challenges and a great deal of courage in getting acquainted with new people.
Having lived in my home and community for 46 years, moving away from friends, neighbors and professional service providers would have been my single biggest challenge to overcome. However, as service providers have retired and my people circle has grown smaller due to illnesses, deaths and relocations, I'm thinking more about what new adventures "lie ahead" rather what I'd be leaving behind.
A salute to you for making the efforts required to meet new people by signing up to volunteer!
After the move in 2018, did you find the move last July easier in some ways? Certainly, you would have disposed of duplicates, etc as you married but I'm wondering about the emotional challenge of another relocation?
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You hit the nail on the head, if you think about the future and the exciting opportunities ahead of you instead of regretting and are angry about moving then you will have problems.
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@fiesty76 When I moved in 2018, my husband was established in a community he had been a part of for over 30 years. I met and liked three of the neighbors in the condo complex where he had been for 8 years. I figured out the main places I had to go, then wrote out directions on index cards for each place. We had panned my move for half a year, so it wasn't too rough.
For the move last year, we had not expected to find a retirement property so quickly. We planned to rent it out for a year, and move here together when he retired. It was a 30 day escrow, and 15 days in, we found out the terms of the loan were we could not rent it out. We had to get an amendment to allow the sellers to stay 3 weeks extra while they closed on their new buy. Since he was still working, it fell to me to move up here, alone. By necessity I had to get to know they guy across the empty lot from us. I had to put myself out of my comfort zone to find out things, since I had to have someone to turn to if I needed help. Just before the move was a health crisis, so that had to be dealt with, also. I congratulate myself, now, for not falling off the deep end completely.
The emotional challenge of uprooting and moving twice, July 2018 and July 2019, took its toll on me. I recently started dealing with the frustration, anger, anxiety and depression that ensued, and am doing a lot better now.
Ginger