@jeanie26- Oh Jeanie what a terrible spot to be in. When we close the door behind our children, after they leave home, we also close the door on their childhood and hope that they will do well as adults. Their life is their responsibility then. It's very difficult to give up power and decision making Hoping that we have guided them well. We can't, I don't think, be angry at our children for making their own mistakes. If you gave advice to your granddaughter on how to handle her child and she didn't take it that was her prerogative.

She needs you right now, not to admonish her but to hold her and love her no matter what her decision was. And perhaps if she had brought him to counseling the same thing might have happened. Along with his mental problems, it is sounds as if he has a lot of normal teenage angst too. It sounds like the 2 clashed.

I hear your pain and I can't imagine how difficult this is to see a great-grandson attack his mom. I hope that you and your family can feel at peace now knowing that at least for a while he's safe and so is his mom.