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How do you accept change as you age?
Aging Well | Last Active: Nov 7, 2020 | Replies (277)Comment receiving replies
to Scott: As far as I'm concerned aging is a bloody, scary bore and should be eliminated -although the alternative - expiring - is not good either. We are in the midst of so much "ageism" today, which denies the wisdom and experience that comes with growing old. It angers me as we "old bats" have so much to offer young people - instead we tend to be discarded in the heap of humanity that appears uneducated too often and lacks standards of behavior. I am also appalled at the scores of young who have no sense of history , no knowledge of the past to learn from which is so often a lesson for the future. Sorry to be so negative about aging, but since I'll be 89 in two months , have lived an interesting life and plan to keep going - I feel I have a right to speak my mind.
I realize I'm out of sync with your formula for communication at Mayo clinic. connect, and will probably be corrected by the powers that be, so this just might be my last post.
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Your years of experiences have given you not only the right to speak up but an obligation to speak up. Anytime we can help someone else through our own experiences it becomes not just a right but a necessity. Please feel free to share.
Ya know I can agree with you on most of what you said, but aging is a bloody, scary bore? Hummm, tell me more about that. I will agree aging can be a little scary at times, or is it really? I think for most of us the process of aging carries with it wisdom, knowledge that only we can pass on, to those who care to listen. I agree that the younger generations have become extreme in their disrespect and lack of understanding of the values of the aging adult. but like it or not that's the world we live in. It is no longer the world we once knew. When I was growing up, the thought of ever talking to an adult like the kids do now , was just not heard of. A lot of what's going on in this world today, I don't agree with and I certainly don't understand, but I can't change the world so I avoid what I can and learn to live with others. It's terrible the way our youth are today but it terrible how their parents are too. But aging doesn't have to be a time of remorse or difficulty. These are OUR golden years and I for one intent to spend it with grace and doing things that make me happy. I love my great grandchildren with all my heart but I am not going to allow them to be disrespectful to me and not do something about it. I generally take them home when they get too out of line. My older grandchildren know that to disrespect me is a no no and that if they feel they can't help themselves, they need to leave. I intend to be happy and do whatever it is that makes me happy. When I was a young mother and wife I did for my children and my husband, when I was a grandmother I help my daughters with their children, as a great grandmother I helped with their children but now that the great grandchildren are older now and so independent and so free to say what they want, when they want, It's my turn. MY turn to be happy do the things I want to do and if that means I can't babysit when they seem to need one, oh well, Maybe it's important to me to visit a friend thats needs me, maybe I just want to sit home and watch tv. or maybe I want to go for a weekend away just for the heck of it. I wish you felt better about the aging process, I wish you were a little more positive about the fact that we have earned the right to do as we please and we don't always need to cater to our children and grandchildren. We have earned the right to be independent, well adjusted, happy older adults that have an abundance of knowledge for the whole world. Share it with all who care to listen. Welcome to the group.
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@sapphira Agree that we have a lot to share. Good to hear from you!