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How do you accept change as you age?

Aging Well | Last Active: Nov 7, 2020 | Replies (277)

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@jeanie26

Good morning everyone, It's been awhile since I've been here so a lot has happened. I took a trip to Ohio to be with my daughter when she had some tests run on her heart, it's roughly 489 miles one way.. The trip up there went smoothly and outside of being a little tired I was fine. I stayed 3 days and headed home. On the way back both feet and ankles swelled up with a 3 + pitting edema. I ended up stopping and spending the night about half was home. The swelling went down over night and I was able to complete my trip. When I did get back home I was so tired I just went to bed and slept all night. I have driven that trip many many times over the years without a problem and it had been about 2 years prior that I had been up there, but this time that trip kicked my butt. I became very depressed in the days that followed. Not sure where it was coming from but I felt terrible. I just felt so unloved, unwanted and felt cast aside by my family. I mowed the grass and cried the whole time. I have a granddaughter living just 15 minutes away that wouldn't come help me if I were on my death bed. I have a grandson about 45 minutes away who I hear from maybe 3 times a year. My son was in a pretty dark place himself at that time and had pulled one of his disappearing acts and I just felt lower than a snakes belly. Long story short, while all these things are true, I started pulling out of my depression and am back to my old self again. But It makes me wonder how many aging people feel this way. So, anyway since I had been out of state and since I had all the edema, my Dr. felt it a good idea to have it checked out and also wanted me to have the test for COVID. I went in for the test and had an EKG, Blood work and chest Xray to rule out any heart condition. All my test results came back fine including the COVID which came back neg. So, what I have taken away from all this is that I will definitely rethink making another long distance trip with me at the helm and as for my family, I still feel distanced from them until they want something but have decided to let them know how I feel and let them know I may not be as available for favors in the future, and that putting my health and wellbeing first is too important to be overlooked. At the time of this writing, I am feeling much better and I look forward to reading all the posts I've missed. Jeanie

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Jeanie26, sounds like you've been through a rough time, but you are now doing better. Family is important, but your health is Number 1, so take care of yourself and do what you have to do to maintain that health. I am fortunate to have a loving family that looks out for each other. Even if your family is not there for you, I hope you have friends and acquaintances you can reach out to via phone/email for comfort and outside contact with the world. Take care of yourself and be strong.