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COVID-19: What does it mean for people in ICU and for families?
Intensive Care (ICU) | Last Active: Apr 21, 2021 | Replies (79)Comment receiving replies
Hi Becky...sending love prayers and hugs to you and your family as well. I’ve thought about coming here but I was too ashamed to come. I felt like I failed my husband. He is still in the hospital. He was transferred to a long term acute care facility last week. I have no contact with him. I am not able to inquire about his health. He supposedly has four daughters from his previous marriage who petitioned for guardianship and conservatorship. I was so upset from having to leave him that I didn’t respond timely to the petition and the judge granted them guardianship based off false information. A young resident made a vicious statement about me in their petition that aided in the injustice that was committed. My wanting to transfer him because of the poor care there caused me to be disliked by his care team. Through it all, I’ve been managing by focusing on GOD through studying and praying. Thank you kindly for remembering us...
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@mutwo I too echo fiesty76 words. What a terrible thing for them to do to you and your husband . My thought and prayers are with you . This is a bad time for you and him my heart goes out to you and to make things worse our country is dealing with so much right now . Again Im sorry this happened to you . Take care of yourself . Linda
@mutwo I am so sorry that you felt ashamed. YOU have nothing to be ashamed of. You did your best in a trying situation in very difficult times. Your husbands daughters are also upset by the whole situation, not necessarily at you. Take some time to grieve with your children and then reach out to your step-daughters. Let them know of your concerns for their father and see if you can help. Please stay in touch, I care
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@mutwo, Just want you to know that I am joining Becky and others here in sending you and your family my thoughts and cyber hugs as well during this most heart wrenching time. I am glad you shared your experience even though I understand how difficult that was to do.
This group understands better than many casual acquaintances, friends or neighbors how critical health situations can bring out both the worst and best in those closest to us.
My best friend is home with Hospice care. Her daughter came to stay and take over her mom's medical and quality of care needs. Sadly, her mom gave her both legal and medical powers of attorney long before my friend's loving guy of 20+ years came into her life. Now the daughter is creating havoc in the home, attempting to take over financial matters and threatening that either "he or I need to move out of the house". I advised immediate counsel with an attorney and although they made an appointment, they cancelled it when the Hospice team scheduled a home conference because of the daughter's behavior. My friend owns the home where they reside and only she can order her daughter to leave. While she has told the daughter that her guy "stays", she is unwilling to order her to leave.
It is more than enough pain to bear witnessing what you and they are experiencing. I am so thankful that your deep religious faith is bolstering your ability to continue to manage and remain strong in the knowledge that your husband knows of your enduring love.
Support is the name of the game in this Connect group. We are here for you.