i"m here! have the same thing. and do the same thing to evacuate my bowels... with the fingers.... I get to the point that if is doesn't come out when I"m on the toilet,, I get frustrated and just get up and leave.. figure it will eventually come out. My bad back is making it difficult to use the finger technique at times... so,,,, I just get off the toilet and wait till later. I visited Mayo and the Dr told me to increase my orange fiber drink to 2x a day and with more spoonfuls in each glass. ( and lots of water). This has helped when I remember to stay consistent with it. He did say that he would do the surgery IF this did not work. HE also said NOT to use the fiber pills as the amount of fiber actually in them is not enough. ( I did not know this). Look at the label and see for yourself. it has to be the kind you mix with water. ( more fiber). I am 56,, and never had kids. I also had a bladder sling put in about 8 years ago for incontinence issues. I was told this has nothing to do with my poop problem. ( FYI). Your not alone!