Thank you all for your kindness and advice.
I'm afraid that my post did devolve into a rant against the V.A. The title – and main point – of the post should have been "How To Make Your Loved One Fear And Hate You In Just 50 Complex Steps"
For years I've been trying to overcome my outspoken aversion for the V.A. Always heard that one has to recognize a fault to correct it. Thought I was making a little progress…on a scale of one to ten (ten being the worst) the present horror show is about a negative seven.
I've spoken to hubby's facility doctor once and he said that it would be nice to have some brain imaging before proceeding. I'm all for that and told doctor I had already spoken to a V.A. Community Care coordinator who said to let them know if anything was needed but doctor is proceeding without it.
There was one symptom that doctor seemed a little mystified by. Hubby sometimes suffers a strange muscle lock-up. Seems to be connected to over-exertion. He starts leaning backwards further and further until he loses balance and falls. Twice this went much further and his knees bent also until his whole body was bent into a backwards leaning 'U' shape. So far back that had he fallen he would have landed on the top of his head. During these episodes he can flex his hands (maybe grab a support) that is all. Very hard for me to ease him to a safe spot because muscles are locked tight. The muscles then release in 3 to 4 minutes. The incidence of this phenomena appears to be decreasing though he now usually walks with a more upright posture than he has for years. Does this ring a bell with anyone? @momkids – I think that you are absolutely right and I should seek better diagnostics. For all anyone knows he might have a brain tumor or something. No one's done so much as an ex-ray.