I agree with you regarding massage and even myofascial release and physical therapy. I have never been one to speak up. Kind of like what @jimhd said about his wife not being honest about her pain. I rolled with the "no pain, no gain" theory and paid the price as a result. As I mentioned before...self awareness and discovery is ever evolving.

I want to also add that you really got me. I will be celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary this year. I'm truly very sorry for your situation which adds insult to injury. I greatly hope that you and your children will find a way to work through adversity in order to find peace and healing.

Rachel