@luftmensh1
I have posted quite a bit about my experience with having my prolapse surgery and if you do a search for my posts by my user name (@baxtersmom) you should be able to find them. But I had the mesh which I was afraid of at first but my doctor showed me the old mesh that you hear about on TV with all the lawsuits vs. the new mesh they use now. The mesh they use now is not the same and the mesh that they had all the lawsuits with is no longer used. The mesh is necessary in a lot of cases because it prevents you from having to go back in a few years and have the surgery all over again. Just stitching up the ligaments usually does not hold and so using the mesh is a better long term solution. My surgery was called a sacrocolpopexy and was recommended by two different urogyneclogists. You want to go to someone who does these surgeries all the time and not someone who only does them every so often. Mine was
done laproscopically with the DaVinci robot and I really have had no issues since having the surgery in Oct. 2017. I had been trying the pessary for a long time and dealing with bleeding and rubbing and never could get it out to clean it (I was always going to the doctor for her to take it out). It was just not sustainable. Please try to do a search from some of the posts here (mine and others) and I think you will see that there is not a lot to be worried about. I said after the surgery that I wished I had done it a couple of years earlier as my prolapse was a level 4 and very hard to live with. It only gets worse with time and I tried doing the exercises but I think mine was so far along by that point that it did no good. After you read more of my posts, let me know if you have any questions. I was surprised to find how many women deal with this even though it isn't talked about much. Best to you.

@luftmensh1 There are several surgical options that treat a prolapsed bladder. You are looking for information and to connect with women that have had these types of surgeries. It important for you to choose the best and safest option. Did I get that right?

It sounds like the short-term use of a pessary has worked but there are side effects. You are now considering surgery sooner rather than later.

You will notice that I moved your question to an existing discussion on Bladder Prolapse Surgery in the Kidney and Bladder group. Members like @contentandwell @baxtersmom @gardeningjunkie @hotfooted have experience with this topic and may be a good resource for you. I also encourage you to scroll back through the comments to find previously shared suggestions.

You mentioned that surgical mesh is now banned, what kinds of other surgeries have you looked into?

I had the "new mesh" surgery 5 years ago at age 67. The previous mesh did have lawsuits from side effects. I have Allergic Contact Dermatitis, ACD which is an allergic form of eczema and had zero reaction to this mess. No more bladder drooping into vaginal opening. I also had a sling placed which lifts up the urethra. The mess lifted the bladder, the sling straightens the urethra so full urination is possible. No more needing to stop at every store to use the bathroom during a shopping trip because I can empty it fully before i leave home and wait till I return hours later to use my own toilet.
Do not expect a basic gynecologists' to perform this surgery. My surgeon only does this surgery. It was worth the 2 1/2 hour drive each way to see a female repair specialist. My surgeon was in Las Vegas NV if interested I will give you his name.