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The ICU experience from a loved one's perspective
Intensive Care (ICU) | Last Active: Apr 3, 2020 | Replies (16)Comment receiving replies
@teresa, Volunteer Mentor, my daughter coded last night. She had CPR for 40 minutes. This morning she grasped my youngest daughters hand ever so slightly.
I almost had a meltdown right there in the ICU. But I caught myself and refused to harm myself. It would have just confused the situation to see a grandmother type beating her head with her fists.
That has not been a part of my Autism experience for many years.
Bur this pain goes so very deep. My child deserves better. And it hurt so badly to see her so helpless and to know there could be cognitive impairment.
So we are back to square one. Worse than square one.
We can do this. We have no choice.
Mamacita Jane
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@mamacita my friend, I can just barely imagine how you must have felt to see your daughter so very ill and now to know that your husband is also battling a serious infection. Call on all of your friends and family. You need the support of everyone who is available. You are strong, but none of us is strong enough to deal with all of this alone! Take care of yourself, you are worth it!
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Oh dear, @mamcita. No one, no parent should have to experience this. It is excruciating to be an observer on the sidelines and to be rendered feeling helpless. But you're not helpless. You are there. You are present. And this means more than you can imagine right now. Be your daughter's calm in the midst of the activity of the health care professionals, the machines, the tubing, etc. She knows you're there.
Yes, you can do this. You're making good choices. You didn't beat your head with your fists. You didn't have a meltdown. You took care for you and for your daughter.