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How to get accurate information and ways to get answers from docs?
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jan 8, 2020 | Replies (37)Comment receiving replies
I have a few thoughts but number one is how your words:” I’m not a doctor “ are words that I found myself say a lot of late; so much so that now I’ve added : “ I know I say this a lot: ‘ I’m not a doctor but....’ “ I call that “ Noticing what I notice “
Honestly I love that saying but in the vein of Noticing what you NOTICE “ results in the people I say that to taking offense at it which makes me wonder what they are noticing by hearing me say that to them. And for the record I’ve said those words to several doctors over the last few years and immediately they show an attitude. Why not ask me “ what do you mean by that?” But that opens up space for a dialogue which is not what they want. In fact I also noticed that many doctors now answer questions like politicians do which is to say they don’t answer your question.
Maybe the one exception to this observation is when it comes to delivering bad news which ironically they seem to do easily devoid of any emotion. Just my humble opinion and observation.
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Noticing what I notice- @stuckonu- This is completely a confusing statement for me. Would you mind explaining this to me?
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Hi, I use that phrase for a couple of reasons. One of those reasons is I don’t feel comfortable giving medical advice to anyone. How I deal with my medical problems is personal. I have a few incurable ones it seems. I found a very knowledgeable neurologist that told me that it is a good idea to be your own doctor. In his estimation, I have been very accurate in my explanations an diagnosis of those medical problems. I have a couple of other doctors and health professionals who feel the same way. I find that interesting and amusing. About 15 years ago, I found out that I have dyslexia. I was never going to be a doctor. I can read pretty well now, but it took a long time and I still problem areas. Observation and life experiences along with the mentoring of some very knowledgeable people in my life, were my educators. As far as the doctors I have met along the way, well I guess I just hit the mother load of bad ones. I will tell you about a couple of these doctors and how they run their practice. They separate there time when it comes to who pays them more for there services. If you have Medicare or a Medicare Advantage plan, you would be lucky if you ever saw that doctor. All I saw was a helper or a nurse. A really big problem as it turned out as it took a very long time before I found out that one of my medical problems is rare. I found that medical problem on my own since I was never going to get any help.