That makes my heart happy to know this mama you met is proud of her son, @mamacita.

A friend of mine has a child in his mid-20s who has Asperger's and lives locally. She is a great mom, but has had a challenging time figuring out how much mothering is appropriate at this juncture in his life.

In order to get him some services he needed to live successfully on his own, she and her husband had to move him to an apartment and basically allow him to fail. She goes to visit and there are bagels and dirty dishes everywhere, he's not taking his meds as he should, and things are in general disarray. I know he struggles getting to his job at a local store regularly, too. Not sure exactly how much of this behavior relates to his diagnosis. So hard for her.

Have you heard of this kind of situation before, @mamacita @sirgalahad @auntieoakley @gingerw, where someone on the spectrum has to prove they cannot live without some help in order to get some help?