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Dementia and nutrition

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 21, 2019 | Replies (12)

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Thanks for those suggestions. While I don’t think swallowing and chewing are an issue it’s certainly worth looking into, I’ll mention it to her GP. The shower cap would work, but she still needs to wash her hair once in a while. She actually has a hand-held shower head in her shower, and a built-in seat so she should be able to wash no problem without getting her hair wet but she won’t even do that. She does take her pills most of the time without a fight, but the main problem is getting her to take the medication she’s been prescribed to prevent constipation- it mixes with water so she can drink it. She suffers from some mild incontinence and that’s also contributing to her unwillingness to eat or drink. Although she has pads for the incontinence issues she still worries constantly about making it to the bathroom on time. The vanity combined with the insecurities about what her body is doing are contributing to some pretty irrational reasoning, which I guess is par for the course with this disease, but we don’t want to see her fail because of nutrition and hygiene when we are perfectly capable of helping her with those issues. ☹️ I appreciate all the suggestions, this is a difficult disease to navigate with no experience.

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The challenge with dementia is that irrational reasoning is par for the course most of the time, and trying to make logic out of it can drive you crazy.

Here are a couple more ideas that might help.
- If she won't take the stool softener because it's a liquid, ask the doctor to prescribe one that's a pill.
- On the hair washing, you could try a coloring conditioner and tell her that it's something new that will help "refresh" her color and keep it nice and purple. I used the Keracolor brand color + conditioner which I bought on Ulta.com. Then it would be a positive thing but also get her to wash her hair when you want her to.
- @IndianaScott might have other suggestions on the bathing because I think I recall him posting on this topic in a separate thread.

As for threatening her with a nursing home, I know you don't like to do it but I think it's reasonable as long as it's done kindly. It's not really a threat; the truth is that if she doesn't eat and take her medications, she will eventually end up sick enough that you can't care for her and she will have to go into a nursing home. I would definitely try other enticements first if they work, but they don't always.

Hang in there and hope this improves for you soon. We are here for you.