The HIPPA law says your wife can sign a paper giving you all the information from the doctor so you can help with the decisions. Then the doctors must share all the information with you on her health problems. Check it out. My husband would not sign and the doctors would not tell me anything but sent home insulin syringes for me to administer. My husband wouldn't allow that so his diabetes was not controlled and he died a terrible death from cancer that he did not cooperate in treating. Get that permission paper signed. Dorisena