Hi Colleen. Wiping the counters might keep mom occupied for a few minutes. And folding napkins another minute or two...

I perceive that mom does not enjoy most tasks partly because of her not remembering how to do them (i.e. how to sweep, set the table, etc.) and also because she seems to have a strong drive to "do it right" and gives up because it isn't the way she thinks it should be (i.e. pulling up the blankets on her bed, folding a towel, matching socks, putting away clean utensils...)

I can't teach her how to remember a skill, and I can't talk her out of her needing to "do it right" and giving up.
As coloradogirl mentioned in the post above, "I'm coming to understanding that if anyone is going to change, it has to be me rather than her because she just doesn't have the capacity to change."