@lisman1408 and @elizm, it is with heavy heart that I see a potential conflict brewing. Thank you both for airing your disappointment and hurt. I agree with many of the points that each of has made. Lisman, you were not being singled out. Elizm was recounting how some people couldn't relate to her cancer experience, even people who had also had cancer but different treatments. The discussion focuses on well-intended but unhelpful even hurtful things people say. Understandably you were hurt when you felt specifically targeted as someone who had "only radiation." As Merry so aptly said, cancer is cancer. There is no good cancer.

@lisman1408 you're right. Let's not allow this discussion to devolve into a competition of comparison. But rather remain a sisterhood of support and understanding where people feel safe to say what's on their mind, even the tough stuff, and not be judged.
@elizm, I urge you to not retreat but to continue to share and help us all to understand multiple perspectives.

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