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“Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer
Breast Cancer | Last Active: Sep 18, 2021 | Replies (60)Comment receiving replies
Merry, I sooooo agree with you! But some people REFUSE to be educated. In my case, even several family members refer to my experience as “I was so lucky that it wasn’t worse”. Yes, I am fortunate that it was found at a stage II. But that doesn’t mean that my cancer therefore wasn’t ‘real’. Even my sister in law expected me to host her, her husband, and two teenage kids at our house for a few days while they were in our area on vacation; when I was finishing up radiation. After all my situation wasn’t so bad, my cancer was only a stage II...
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@lisman1408 - perhaps it's time to agree with them? And since you tell them that you agree then you can also remind them that they need not mention it again.
I agree with @trixi1313 someone needs to be your advocate with your sister. I kept mine away. Right now you are number 1! Your mental health has so much to do with your total healing. You might need to separate yourself from those people who are insensitive to your needs and well being.
Can you or someone else set some limits so that you are protected? This is not the time for being polite to people who don't have your back!
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@lisman1408 By any chance, are you single or do you have a partner? It would be helpful if that person could take them aside and speak frankly with them. My husband was my champion throughout. And my family understood what was going on. I am quite fortunate. My son and daughter-in-law even spoke to my 4 and 7-year-old grandies. They would all know to come in to my bedroom quietly to see if I was awake and then sit and chat. Even since recovering from most effects, if relatives are around and I am too tired I just excuse myself and my husband then entertains. Are there any support groups in your area you could try to attend? I find it is helpful to be able to speak candidly with those going through the same thing. I hope things go better for you.