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“Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer

Breast Cancer | Last Active: Sep 18, 2021 | Replies (60)

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@lisman1408

Merry, thank you for your sensitivity to each of us. You have certainly gone through much more than I have. My cancer was found and treated at an early stage 2 breast cancer. Because it was found early, I needed only radiation. I was spared Chemo. and am very grateful for that. However, regardless of ‘stage’ of severity, or chances of survival; just having cancer in one’s body is so intense and frightening. I’m weary of being told that ‘I’m so lucky’. I fully agree, Yes, I AM fortunate that it wasn’t worse. But how can a diagnosis of cancer, in any form, really ‘be lucky’. In reality, I feel like I’m just waiting for it to be found again somewhere else in my body. I feel like, if my immune system didn’t find and destroy the cancer cells in the early phase of breast cancer, why would I have confidence that cancer isn’t lurking, unknown, somewhere else in my body? I am finding that I just keep my mouth shut, I don’t talk about, or express those fears, because... after all... ‘I’m lucky’: And I should “just get over it”... I am soooooo grateful for this group of women here on this web site! Thank you to each of you for your understanding.

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Totally agree

@lisman1408; @dottieh- Thank you. It's unfortunate that the word cancer has become a cancer in itself, few people really know how to react to someone who has cancer. I have even had trouble. At the beginning of my journey I knew what I didn't want to hear but I had no idea what I wanted to hear. Unless you want to be that screaming person in line just nod your head and let the remarks go. Unless of course you can't, like me sometimes. There is no good cancer. All cancer is bad. And it can come back and that petrifies us, and why shouldn't it? To those who really are insensitive maybe tell them the truth, in a calm way- tell them that "what they say makes you feel ..." Educate them. Tell them that no, I am not lucky, lucky is not ever having cancer.
Don't you think that we need to educate people not to be afraid of the word?