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Cancer and returning to work

Cancer: Managing Symptoms | Last Active: Jun 2 1:05pm | Replies (31)

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@azkidney57

Thank you for sharing your story. I happen to work in a hospital you would think a cancer diagnosis would prompt good support and it does to a certain extent but the hospital remains a place of business. I went to my Human Resources department to see what options I had regarding my situation and I was told find another job at the hospital or find another job. I could go on a leave but it would be unpaid. How would that help me? My boss is a little more sympathetic than most but she is still a manager. She follows the rules and protocols set in place and I need to follow and abide by those same rules. Truth is my orientation was done in a haphazard way trained on the job. There was no formal “training “ as it were. A woman that was suppose to train me with one aspect of my job left much to be desired. She has done her job for 12 years I had been there 1 month. She was not a good teacher. She was often rude and mostly inpatient with me. On one occasion after I had an especially stressful meeting the day prior with my oncologist she was quite rude and disrespectful. I was at the time as I still am trying to adjust to my new life as a cancer patient. Of course she doesn’t know I have cancer. She is just training someone that to her seems inadequate. So I need to see if my boss will allow me to start over. I don’t know what will happen and that is the common new theme in my life, uncertainty.

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Sorry to hear about all of this. Uncertainty is a horrible feeling and creates a lot of stress. It sounds like you're making every effort to make this work and every person reacts to illness physically and emotionally in a different way. Unfortunately not all people are empathetic to the degree they need to be.
My husband used to say to me about work, 'it's not you'......and it's not you. It's the lack of sympathy and understanding in the world with some people. Keep your position, do your best and remember to tell yourself you are doing your best and 'its not you'. You deserve kindness and understanding and you'll get that from all of us here as you need it. Don't let them bully you into quitting. You can collect unemployment if you are fired (in most states) but not if you quit. As hard as it might be or feel you are better with your job and health insurance for now until you're stronger and able to have the energy to decide if you want to make a change.
Everything feels terrible right now, including this unnecessary stress at work. Weather the storm and you'll come out on the other end stronger.
Hugs